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\"heal\"<\/a>Last week we talked about fear<\/a> a little, about how it might be possible to make friends with it. The reason we took that path is because another odd thing about the way fear<\/a> works in us is that we hold onto the habits of being fearful and that habit can be just as destructive as the initial state of fear was.\u00a0What\u00a0if we could\u00a0heal the hurt our\u00a0fear left behind? Is that possible? I believe it is.<\/p>\n

Fear scars our memory<\/h2>\n

Mostly we fear things that we believe are uncomfortable or painful. Public speaking, visiting the dentist, cleaning the pool filter. And so we put off doing them ever, ever again. fear can attach itself to so many things, and to little things (and that’s a trick too – you don’t want to own up to being afraid<\/em> of something) it is easy to say instead\u00a0“I’m too busy”, “too tired”, “Not right now” and we rush on, pushing our way through all the other things there are to do.\u00a0 That’s why making friends<\/a> is a good first step, but it isn’t the only step. You also need to be gentle with yourself <\/a>for a while. We try and rush healing in our culture. It doesn’t work. We don’t work that way. Then you’re ready to work some magic and\u00a0make something new in the place the fear\u00a0used to be.\u00a0Unless we transform the experience, we re-live it. Even if we’re never in the same situation again, we carry it around and act as though it is real and that is not freedom. That is being frozen by fear.<\/p>\n

Transform your state of fear<\/h2>\n

Taking action, being courageous, facing up to the things you’re frightened of, these thing have value, but be clear that you haven’t transformed your fear. The habit of it, the scar from it will still be there, the pattern may repeat. We want to shift from a state of fear, into a state of peace, or safety or trust. From these states we can heal. From these states we have a chance to remake our patterns. There is a way out and you can do it. You can heal the fear that restricts you, that follows you around like a cloud.<\/p>\n

This is your personal adventure. You are\u00a0the magician with the power to shift your state, ask yourself what you need to make this happen, ask for help from the universe or people you know to bring what you need together, give yourself time to brew the right potion. Mindfulness about your intent and your existing habits is useful.\u00a0Accept the help that will come. Accept the uncertainty of change. These vital steps put you\u00a0onto the cusp of transformation.\u00a0Your heart aches for comfort, but the mind creates the labyrinths.<\/p>\n

The mind is where the magic happens, there in the cauldron of your skull.<\/p>\n

Rinse and repeat<\/h2>\n

Healing is not a one-off thing. Habits form over time, and they take time to dismantle. This is not a ‘tick and flick’ exercise, you’ll be spiraling through these experiences. One thing leads to another, one memory raises three more. Humans are complex and we like to layer things. So go easy, pace yourself. You can heal, but you’ll need to give yourself time.<\/p>\n

The payoff<\/h2>\n

Ironically, by the time you’re ready to cash-in the benefits of all this self-healing, you may have forgotten there even was<\/em> a final stage! There is – all that energy that went into fear and worry is available for something else – something new. You might be so relieved to be basically fear and worry free that it feels like enough. Well and good, rest there for a while, when you’re ready the world will be waiting for you.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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